How to Command your Life

How to Command your Life

There is no more certainty in this world which – looking at the big picture – is a good thing. But on the aspect of your life, is not. Leaving the outcomes of your life to chance is like putting a brick round your neck and throwing yourself into an ocean. How to command your life gives you tips you need to command your life.

If you’re an undergraduate or you will soon become one, you must make sure you start taking command of your life now if you haven’t been doing so.


You must ask yourself these vital questions before leaving school;

  1. What do I want my life to look like in 1-5 years from now?
  2. What will I be doing?
  3. Where will I live?

This cannot be stressed enough. There are no jobs out there and even if you get a job, is it all you’ve ever wanted?


If you’re already out there, ask yourself these questions;

  1. Am I living the life I have always dreamed of?
  2. Is this what I have always wanted to do
  3. Am I in total control of my life?
  4. Have I become what I have always wanted to be?

These are the questions you ought to ask yourself right now; and if you answer NO to any of those questions it is time to stop and take a good long look at your life and start making changes in the areas you need to change.


It Will be Tough

I know it will be tough and some of you reading this post right now already have families dependent on you. But you don’t have to make radical changes; you only need to change one thing at a time.

For instance;

1.   If you’re not in the kind of job you want and you wish to have a better job; what you have to do is study about the other job during your free time so that you can be skilled in that aspect and apply for that job in various companies. You don’t have to quit your current job yet. Although if you have saved up enough money; you can quit and live on your savings till you get the better job you wanted. (My advice on living on saved cash for a better job is that you save at least 6 months salary).

2.   If you don’t want to work for anybody and wish to be in business for yourself but you find yourself right now working for “the man”, you can quit now IF you have your 6 months in advance salary saved up so you can spend every waking hour of your time drilling on your craft, reading and practicing till you become a very competent member of your field.


It is Your Right to be Successful

As kings and queens, you are destined to live a life worthy of other peoples envy. As kings and queens you have all the right and privilege even to live the exact kind of life you have always dreamed of.

But it is not enough to dream, we must be actively engaged in what it is we want to do. We must take the reins of your lives and lead it where we want it to go.

For some people this is scary and it’s okay because the scarier it is, the more weight it will carry when you succeed. But from now you have to take command of your life.

If you don’t begin to take charge of your life right this moment and start to live the kind of life you want then you will lose the ultimate security, your life will be a sham and you will be controlled by others.

In the words of Og Mandino, the author of The Greatest Salesman in the World,

“Without choice we can have no direction; without a life strategy that is our own we lose our sense of self (or never find it) and become a cipher, a nothing”.

Standing for Yourself

When you take charge of your life, you begin by first taking a stand for yourself. There are ways listed below that you should consider when trying standing for yourself.

  • Check things out for yourself, not others. In other words, don’t report to anybody but yourself.
  • Stop apologizing unnecessarily – This makes you look weak
  • Don’t ask permission from others to do something. Go ahead and get it done for you. Remember, you are the captain of your own soul.
  • Don’t be afraid to say no to people and things. Act on your guts and don’t apologize for it
  • Never, ever should you put yourself completely in the hands of another person.

It is time to begin to make your own luck and in these economic times you seriously cannot leave it to chance.


Your Last Moment

Take this last moment you have in school to determine where you want your life to go. If you already have a plan for yourself, follow it religiously and stay with it doggedly until it is completed.



Entrepreneurship is a way to take charge of your life financially because of the times we live in. if you are into business and what not… but you can’t afford not to be in business for yourself because it is a hell-storm out there, you need to commit to taking command of your life, find your path, and pursue it till it is completed.

17 Ways to stop being a Loser

17 Ways to stop being a Loser

17 Ways to stop being a Loser

Nobody wants to be a loser and maybe once in your life you have been tagged a loser and wish to change that tag to a winner.

Well, this is way to ditch that loser tag and become a winner everybody wil love and love to hang out with.


  1. Control your life

The very first step to quit being a loser is that you take complete control of your life. Don’t say this guy or that guy, or this girl or that girl was or is responsible for whatever ugly stuff you are going through right now.

Forget others in your quest to being a winner.

Forget your parents hand in being a winner, except you are starting a business and need a loan from them.

Begin at this moment to take complete control of your life and you will notice the big change in your attitude and confidence.


  1. Value yourself

This is most people’s problem struggling with being a loser, they don’t value themselves enough, they say things like, “I’m not worth it” or “I’m not good enough” or “I can’t do that”.

These statements are signs that someone does not value himself or herself and if you don’t value yourself, who is going to value you?


So from now on, when you feel like putting yourself or your abilities down, you say this instead, “I am worthy”, “I can do it” and “I am good enough”.

Download some affirmation audios on I AM. It will help you a lot.


  1. Be positive

Nobody likes to hang out with negative people. They kill the mood and put a wet towel on fun, make a choice right now to talk and act positively.

Never think about the wrong things that could happen anywhere you go, instead think about the right things in all situations.


  1. Be a good conversationalist

If you go to a party you see at least one person who always commands the attention of the people at that party, they know how to talk and capture people’s attention.

To be a good conversationalist, you should learn to first of all be open to whoever you are talking to. Show signs of being receptive to what they are saying by leaning forward to them when they talk.

Also, listen more than you talk.

The act of a good conversationalist is in his or her ability to let the other person talk. You can occasionally ask questions. That way they know you are truly listening.


  1. Dress well

How do you dress well that people respect you and would want o be associated with you?


Whenever you are about to go out ask yourself, “will you want to talk to someone that is dressed the way you are dressed?”

If your answer is no, go change.

What can you wear then to be more like a winner and less than a loser?

Your clothes must be clean and well pressed. Do not shower yourself with cologne enough to choke people.

Wear nice shoes and they must be polished.


  1. Be responsible

Act responsibly and people will trust and want to be friends with you.

Being and acting responsible tells people that you have your stuff together and that you can and should be taken seriously.

Why do you think people running for public office usually do so with their spouses?

People even get married because they want to run for public office.

Nobody is going to trust a single man running for presidency. Will you?


  1. Be honest

Why should you be honest? Because honesty is the best policy.

If you are honest in all of your dealings, people will want to work with you more because they can trust you.

Honest people are those people that are true to their words.

They don’t say one thing and go ahead to do another thing.

How can you project honesty in your dealings?

If you are not sure of whatever it is you want to say, don’t say it.

If you think you may or may not do something, don’t tell people you would do it due to the influence of circumstances out of your control, tell them. You will be respected more for it.


  1. Work hard

In whatever you do, work hard, whether it is at work or at school or anywhere you happen to find yourself.

If you are excelling at your personal job or school you begin to feel good about yourself, which radiates confidence and will in no time spread to other parts of your life as well.


  1. Surround yourself with good people

Like attracts like.

If you only hang out with losers you will also be a loser. If you only hang out with winners chances are you will also become a winner.

Show me your friends and I will tell you who you are.

If you hand out with four friends that are poor, guess who the fifth one will be?

Know that you want and look for the people who have already achieved what you want and hang out with them.


  1. Plan for your future

Always have a plan for your life. Have you ever noticed that women like men that have plans in life?

No just women, real, ambitious people like to hang out with other people that have major life goals and plans.

Take an hour or two, or even a day and write down your life goals and begin to take active steps to achieving those goals.


  1. Relax

Whenever you are in a stressful situation, take time out to relax.

When you are relaxed, you make better choices and are a lot more fun to be around. People will easily want to talk to you and conversation topics will be easy to bring up.

Whenever you are stressed out and you feel like losing it, take three deep breaths and wait for a couple of seconds.

If you still feel like losing your cool, take time out and listen to some good music. That will remove the stress from you.


  1. Get a hobby

This is equivalent to saying “get a life”.

If you spend time doing what you love it will be far easier to love yourself.

Try to spend some time doing something every day that you love and if you have to do it someone else, that’s even better.