17 Ways to stop being a Loser
Nobody wants to be a loser and maybe once in your life you have been tagged a loser and wish to change that tag to a winner.
Well, this is way to ditch that loser tag and become a winner everybody wil love and love to hang out with.
Control your life
The very first step to quit being a loser is that you take complete control of your life. Don’t say this guy or that guy, or this girl or that girl was or is responsible for whatever ugly stuff you are going through right now.
Forget others in your quest to being a winner.
Forget your parents hand in being a winner, except you are starting a business and need a loan from them.
Begin at this moment to take complete control of your life and you will notice the big change in your attitude and confidence.
This is most people’s problem struggling with being a loser, they don’t value themselves enough, they say things like, “I’m not worth it” or “I’m not good enough” or “I can’t do that”.
These statements are signs that someone does not value himself or herself and if you don’t value yourself, who is going to value you?
So from now on, when you feel like putting yourself or your abilities down, you say this instead, “I am worthy”, “I can do it” and “I am good enough”.
Download some affirmation audios on I AM. It will help you a lot.
Nobody likes to hang out with negative people. They kill the mood and put a wet towel on fun, make a choice right now to talk and act positively.
Never think about the wrong things that could happen anywhere you go, instead think about the right things in all situations.
Be a good conversationalist
If you go to a party you see at least one person who always commands the attention of the people at that party, they know how to talk and capture people’s attention.
To be a good conversationalist, you should learn to first of all be open to whoever you are talking to. Show signs of being receptive to what they are saying by leaning forward to them when they talk.
Also, listen more than you talk.
The act of a good conversationalist is in his or her ability to let the other person talk. You can occasionally ask questions. That way they know you are truly listening.
How do you dress well that people respect you and would want o be associated with you?
Whenever you are about to go out ask yourself, “will you want to talk to someone that is dressed the way you are dressed?”
If your answer is no, go change.
What can you wear then to be more like a winner and less than a loser?
Your clothes must be clean and well pressed. Do not shower yourself with cologne enough to choke people.
Wear nice shoes and they must be polished.
Act responsibly and people will trust and want to be friends with you.
Being and acting responsible tells people that you have your stuff together and that you can and should be taken seriously.
Why do you think people running for public office usually do so with their spouses?
People even get married because they want to run for public office.
Nobody is going to trust a single man running for presidency. Will you?
Why should you be honest? Because honesty is the best policy.
If you are honest in all of your dealings, people will want to work with you more because they can trust you.
Honest people are those people that are true to their words.
They don’t say one thing and go ahead to do another thing.
How can you project honesty in your dealings?
If you are not sure of whatever it is you want to say, don’t say it.
If you think you may or may not do something, don’t tell people you would do it due to the influence of circumstances out of your control, tell them. You will be respected more for it.
In whatever you do, work hard, whether it is at work or at school or anywhere you happen to find yourself.
If you are excelling at your personal job or school you begin to feel good about yourself, which radiates confidence and will in no time spread to other parts of your life as well.
Surround yourself with good people
Like attracts like.
If you only hang out with losers you will also be a loser. If you only hang out with winners chances are you will also become a winner.
Show me your friends and I will tell you who you are.
If you hand out with four friends that are poor, guess who the fifth one will be?
Know that you want and look for the people who have already achieved what you want and hang out with them.
Always have a plan for your life. Have you ever noticed that women like men that have plans in life?
No just women, real, ambitious people like to hang out with other people that have major life goals and plans.
Take an hour or two, or even a day and write down your life goals and begin to take active steps to achieving those goals.
Whenever you are in a stressful situation, take time out to relax.
When you are relaxed, you make better choices and are a lot more fun to be around. People will easily want to talk to you and conversation topics will be easy to bring up.
Whenever you are stressed out and you feel like losing it, take three deep breaths and wait for a couple of seconds.
If you still feel like losing your cool, take time out and listen to some good music. That will remove the stress from you.
Get a hobby
This is equivalent to saying “get a life”.
If you spend time doing what you love it will be far easier to love yourself.
Try to spend some time doing something every day that you love and if you have to do it someone else, that’s even better.